In these videos, I noticed a range of comments—some deeply empathetic, while others took a more critical view.
The empathetic comments expressed sadness and compassion for those suffering. On the other hand, some people argued that those who commit suicide don’t value themselves or fail to see life as a blessing.
Many would consider this stance unempathetic, dismissing the reality of what someone struggling with suicidal thoughts may be going through—they often just need someone to listen.
Reading these contrasting comments has led me to consider suicide from another perspective.
There’s a question often raised in my mind:
“Many people say that depression leading to suicide is not a sign of weak faith; rather, the person simply needs someone to listen to them. But it makes me wonder—if the roles were reversed and someone who had once struggled with depression is now mentally stronger, would they be equally willing to listen to another person who is struggling?”
Some may find my perspective difficult or even contradictory because how could I think this way? I want to be clear that I’m truly empathetic; I know how dark and isolating depression can feel, as though there’s no escape.
However, I’ve also come to understand that while we can support each other as best we can, the ultimate responsibility for our mental health rests with ourselves. It’s not fair to blame others for not being able to listen to us all the time.
In mental health, personal responsibility is crucial. But so, too, is understanding that others’ support can be invaluable in healing. Still, not everyone is mentally equipped to support someone else through depression, which is why it’s vital to respect individual boundaries.
For example, someone who is mentally stable may be able to listen without difficulty. But for others, this could become overwhelming, even affecting their own mental health. Not everyone can be a steady support for others.
There’s a term in psychology—compassion fatigue—which describes the emotional exhaustion that can come from continuously empathizing with others. This is often experienced by those in helping professions, like psychologists, counselors, and social workers, who regularly hear emotionally intense stories. The reality is, everyone has limits, even those who want to help.
To find a healthy balance, here are some key principles.
1. Self-Awareness
Those facing depression should recognize the importance of seeking professional help, like a psychologist or counselor. While friends and family can offer support, they have their own limitations, and recognizing this is part of taking responsibility for one’s healing.
2. Encouraging Healthy Communication
It’s okay to gently let someone know your boundaries and, if necessary, to guide them toward professional resources. This allows us to support others without sacrificing our own mental health.
3. Setting Boundaries Without Guilt
Not everyone can be available to listen at all times, and that’s natural. When we’re not able to listen, we shouldn’t feel guilty. Taking care of ourselves is as important as being there for others.
Mental health is a shared responsibility, but it’s essential that each person recognizes their own boundaries. Ultimately, individuals need to be proactive in seeking help and building their resilience to handle emotional challenges.
Maintaining mental health requires self-awareness, balance, and a proactive approach to seeking the right kind of support. While empathy from others is valuable, understanding and respecting personal boundaries is essential for both sides. Everyone has a role, but the journey to well-being begins within each individual. 🤍
PS: To raise mental health awareness, I’ll be sharing some free websites and apps where people can chat with a counselor about anything on their mind. Stay tuned! ☺️
